Couples bond over doing things together. It creates memories they share and emotions they remember. But, when you are both living in different cities, it can be difficult to bond over activities. When you are in a long-distance relationship it’s important that you develop activities, you can do over the phone or video chat.
It’s time to start thinking outside the box and reinventing what romance might look like. When you are together a romantic evening might be a candlelit dinner at home with a movie and popcorn on the couch. Or you both might enjoy a quiet walk at dusk holding hand, and evening ride on your favorite horses or a quiet meal at a 5-star restaurant. While you can do those things when you are together, doing them separately isn’t romantic.
Keep the home fires burning by sharing a meal together over video chat. Have your partner’s meal delivered from a caterer, light the candles and put the computer or smart phone opposite you. Now you are both at the table together, enjoying a beautiful meal and some great conversation.
You can do the same thing watching a movie together. Rent the same movie, park on the couch and use video chat to watch it, talk about it and share some popcorn. Is it the same as being there? Not exactly. But, it is better than wondering what your partner is doing that evening or spending it alone yourself.
Pick out a book that you can read at the same time and talk about. It gives a bit of structure to a conversation and sparks interesting discussions that allow you both to learn even more about each other. Use a book that you can reference later, such as a book about nutrition or fitness. Make a commitment to make some changes based on the information you learn. You could both cut out soda, reduce your alcohol or sugar intake, increase the amount of vegetables or workout for 30 minutes each day.
Share some of the same music, talk about what was on the news that day, go to an art museum together (on video chat) or have coffee together in the middle of the afternoon (video chat again!).
It’s important to look for things that you can share together. It will be an effort, more of an effort than if you lived closer together. But when you can visit, or eventually move to the same city or the same house, it will be well worth it. These shared experiences will be a foundation for you both to build a deeper and more stable relationship.
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